School just went back into session after a holiday break. Okay, so it was a great break because my husband and I both had time off at the same time (that never happens)! And believe me, we needed it… before Christmas all we did was fight, and I really think its because we didn’t have time, okay so we didn’t MAKE time to stay connected. Besides having a designated date night, what else can we do so that we don’t lose the magic we got during our holiday vacation?
—Lover of Holiday Magic
Dear Lover of Holiday Magic,
It warms my heart to hear stories of reconnection and family happiness. You are right, its very important to work to keep that special magic in your relationship. When our lives get so busy and stressful sometimes it’s hard to prioritize our relationships. As a matter of fact, it’s easy to push it aside to get other things done (work, kids, church, and community… the list goes on and on and on). But we have to work for the things we value most in our lives! I know you want ideas other than a regular date night, and those are important to share… but don’t make that date night just another thing on your schedule… make it special! There is no one magical pill to make relationships happy all through the year. It is really more about the combination of little things. Couples who actually like one another, listen to one another, respect one another are able to keep the magic. You know why? Because they can put things in perspective! They are not going to get bogged down with every day frustrations such as, “Did he really leave the toilet seat up again??” We laugh at that example, but you would be surprised how many couples enter counseling and their first complaint is something as simple as a toilet seat. Couples with perspective understand the importance of generosity in a relationship. Love generously, share generously, and give affection generously. Because generosity breeds relationship magic.
Blessings,
—Miss C
