Dear Miss C,
I am constantly dating the wrong person. I seem to have this issue with always choosing the guy who doesn’t treat me right. I am not saying that I have been in abusive relationships but I am definitely always choosing the guys who wants to cheat or spend more time with their drinking buddies than with me. How do I attract the guys that are good for me?
– Girl Who Chooses Wrong
Dear Girl Who Chooses Wrong,
What I hear you asking is: How do you find the man who accepts you for who you are, loves you for your perceived faults, and still treats you like a princess? First, it is important to look inward and describe the romantic partner you feel would best suit your life expectations. Now, how does that compare to the partners you have chosen thus far? Next, look even deeper. When one is taken advantage of, it is usually our own fault. We set the stage early by not being our real and honest selves. We color ourselves who we think we will be most likable. We are flexible about our own standards, and then are surprised when the relationship develops according to those pretend standards. Believe it or not, we outwardly reflect what we feel inside about ourselves. Fall in love with yourself, and others will fall in love with you. These may sound like clichés. They are, but they are also true. If you are concerned that you are not attracting or choosing the type of relationships that you deserve, then it is most likely you are outwardly projecting those expectations. Again I say, love yourself and present the real you to the world. The world will love you for it, and you will respect yourself.
Blessings,
– Miss C
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