Dear Miss C,
Okay, so here is the thing. Last week, I said something that I know hurt my friend. I told her that her relationship problems are her own fault, for being too needy all the time. I want to apologize, no not really, because I am not sorry. She needs someone to be honest with her and all her other friends are afraid of hurting her feelings. I love my friend and I want to still be friends with her, but she is pretty mad at me… should I just apologize and be done with it?
—SadFriend
Dear SadFriend,
There are certain things that once said, can never be taken back. It might be a good idea to apologize, but not for caring enough to give her advice, but instead apologize for her hurt feelings. Be sure that she knows that was not your intention to hurt, but to help give her insight. Acknowledge that perhaps you did not word it the right way, but you spoke because you care about her happiness.
This said, you may need to give your friend a little bit of time, but true friends will see the positive intent behind the words. It just may take some time for her to process.
**It is important to remember, your words are powerful, so choose them carefully!**
Blessings,
—Miss C
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